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Create one breath of space between the trigger and your response.
Amazon #1 bestselling author
Love them deeply.Carry them less.
A warm, funny, honest home for women learning to stop measuring their worth through everyone else’s lives—and start living the chapter that finally belongs to them.
For mothers of adult children, recovering fixers, and every woman ready to come home to herself.
Does this sound familiar?
You are not the only one holding the invisible report card.
- One unanswered text can ruin your afternoon.
- You rehearse conversations that never happen.
- Their bad day feels like your personal failure.
- You keep helping even when nobody asked.
- You love them fiercely—and somewhere along the way, you lost yourself.
Part memoir. Part roadmap. Completely honest.
The book that started the movement
Your Children Are Not Your Report Card
How to Love Your Adult Children Without Losing Yourself
For years, Gigi Baxter quietly graded her worth by her children’s lives. Their successes felt like an A+. Their struggles felt like a personal F. Then she discovered that the problem was never her children—it was the report card she had been carrying for decades.
With self-deprecating humor, raw honesty, and practical tools, this book helps mothers release guilt, stop catastrophizing, create healthier boundaries, and rediscover the woman behind the role of “Mom.”
“You don’t have to stop loving. You simply have to stop carrying what was never yours to carry.”
Put the report card down.
Look up. Your life is waiting.Practical wisdom you can remember
The tools that changed everything
Small, memorable shifts for the moments when love, fear, guilt, and the urge to fix everything arrive all at once.
Board Seat, Not CEO
Stay loving and present without trying to run their daily operations.
Whose Suitcase Is This?
Notice what belongs to you—and lovingly put down what does not.
The Imaginary Child
Release the person you pictured so you can finally meet the person in front of you.
One Opinion. One Time.
Offer your wisdom without turning it into a campaign for compliance.
Love Without Carrying
Care deeply while remembering that love and responsibility are not the same thing.
A memoir that becomes a mirror
Shavasana was supposed to be peaceful.
Instead, Gigi found herself conducting a full internal audit of her adult children while everyone else floated toward enlightenment. One child flourishing? A. One struggling? C+. One still figuring it out? Incomplete.
That absurd, painful moment became the beginning of a different way to love: with less grading, less carrying, and far more room for everyone to become themselves.
Start reading the storyMeet Gigi Baxter
Recovering fixer. Mother of three. Still practicing.
Gigi Baxter is an Amazon #1 bestselling author, wife, mother of three adult children, lifelong learner, and recovering fixer. She writes for women who have spent years carrying everyone else—and are finally ready to ask, “What about my life?”
Her work blends vulnerable storytelling, sharp humor, and practical frameworks that help women love their families without disappearing inside them. She lives in Virginia with her husband, Miki, whose inconveniently wise questions inspired more than a few pages of her first book.
“Progress. Not sainthood.”
The story is getting bigger
Not Your Report Card is more than one book.
It is a growing conversation about identity, purpose, family, friendship, and the many ways women learn to confuse being loved with being needed, approved of, or impressive.
Children
Their lives are not proof of whether you succeeded.
Identity & Purpose
Being needed is not the only proof that you matter.
Family & Friendship
Other people’s approval is not proof of your worth.
Speaking, podcasts & book clubs
A conversation your audience is already having quietly.
Gigi brings warmth, humor, lived experience, and practical tools to conversations about adult children, empty-nest identity, boundaries, midlife reinvention, and loving without carrying.
Board Seat, Not CEOWhen Everyone Needs You LessLove Without CarryingThe Invisible Report Card